What do you think is the real secret behind my client success? Well, if you said it is my aforementioned training and nutrition system, then you would be wrong. Yep, it?s an incredible program, but unfortunately it?s useless if someone is unwilling to start it AND stick to it! You have to truly want to change you body and be willing to do what it takes. I can encourage and motivate you, help with accountability, create the greatest program in the world but if you aren?t really committed I can't magically give you the body you've always dreamed of. So, it appears that the most important component of changing your body is finding the motivation to achieve your goals, and that?s the main focus of this article. I am going to walk you through the initial consult and three step goal setting process that each one of my clients undergoes before they start working with us. This is so important to weight loss success that I now require it for any new client to be considered for joining our program.
Before I get into the goal setting process, I know a lot of people think goal setting is just a cheesy, useless endeavor. Unfortunately, if you are one of those people just go buy another weight loss book or pill that won't work, because I can?t help you. I can only help people who want to learn and are willing to change. The bottom line is that the most successful people out there, and I mean not just weight loss success, I am talking business, lifestyle, etc., are extremely goal driven. They know exactly why they want to do something and harness that motivation to figure out what and by when they want to go about accomplishing that. Furthermore, they plan and prepare for every possible roadblock they will encounter in their path to success. Studies have shown that the act of writing your goals down vastly increases your chance of success. This is what I want to teach you how to do today, so let?s get to it!
Step One - The Why: Why do you want to do this?
This is where it?s time to get real. Get to the true heart of the issue no matter how jut wrenching that may be. The fact is you physical appearance can have a profound effect on your emotions and confidence, in a good or bad way.
In almost every initial consult I do, when I ask why they have contacted me, here is the typical blanket response that I first hear:
?Well, I just want to get healthy and lose weight I guess.?
I?m not convinced. Sure, I know they want to lose weight and be healthy, I mean who doesn?t, but really WHY do they want to do this? I mean, what is it that?s going to get them to the gym after a long day at work or take a couple of hours on Sunday to plan and prepare their meals for the upcoming week? It sure isn?t ?being healthy? because for some reason this just isn?t a very powerful motivator for most people (though it should be).
Let?s face it: everybody, including YOU, wants to look better naked. Stop giggling, you know it?s true and frankly that?s okay because the desire to improve one?s appearance is the most powerful motivator there is. This shouldn?t be such a big surprise since the main life mission of humans, or any species for that matter, is to procreate. This is instinctual. And obviously, looking better makes this more of a reality.
So, after a little digging, find out the real reason why you want to do this. It might be as simple as being able to mow the lawn in the summer with your shirt off and be proud to do so. Others want to get back into their skinny jeans (we all have an elusive pair) that they haven't been able to fit into in years or have just fun shopping again. Then there are those who want to look and feel more attractive to ignite some passion back into their relationships and/or put for their best image at work. For some it might be a little more emotional and really relate to how these issues are affecting their mood and sense of self esteem. And of course, my personal favorite is preparing for big events that have built in deadlines. Wanting to get as lean and tight to rock that dream bathing suit on the beach, or being a classic beauty in your wedding dress on the big day, it all works! This is the stuff that gets people jacked up and ready to commit to making some real changes.
So, the first thing you have to figure out is your personal WHY. To make this even simpler for you, just answer this question: What are your physical dreams? Once you establish this, everything else is easy baby.
Ok, so we have established how important it is to get to the why of your resolution. Now let?s talk about Step Two:
Step Two - The What and When: What do you want to accomplish and when do you want to accomplish it by?
So we already figured out the obvious: you want to look better! So, now we need to establish what objective goal needs to be accomplished in order to realize this subjective dream.
Well, from a logistics standpoint and keeping things as cost effective as possible, there are three major ways I track ?look better? progress with my clients, in order of importance from least to most important:
1.) Scale Weight: What do you want to weigh?. This is by far the least important goal, but it gives a number that?s worth tracking. Though body fat percentage is a much better method, weight is an easy way to track progress. The key is to taking your initial weight before you start and then not weighing more than every 2 weeks. I have found most people to do better by tracking their weight on a monthly basis. There are simply too many variables for controlling your body weight and the natural fluctuations based on diet, this means the less frequently you weigh the better. If the scale is just too de-motivating for you in general, then just skip this one altogether if you must, because the next two markers are far more important.
2.) Dress/Pant Size: What size would you like to wear? This is probably the most simple and effective unused methods of tracking whether or not you are making progress. I think it?s safe to say that if you are dropping dress and/or pant sizes that you will be looking better, right? Your best bet is to also select one dress or one pair of pants that you really want to get into since that is the true end goal in mind. I tell my clients to assess how they are fitting into their preferred dress/pant size tracker on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. There?s nothing more powerful than being to literally being able to feel yourself comfortably get into clothes that you could barley zip up before.
3.) Digital Pictures: Take before photos! Pictures don?t lie, that?s the bottom line. If you want to look better, what better way is there to assess this than pictures? I cannot begin to tell you how important this is. Take pictures wearing exactly what you want to look your best in. Maybe it?s taking pictures of you in the dress or pair of pants that you are using to track your new dress or pant size. Or maybe it?s a sleeveless shirt or tank top that you want to wear during the summer. And if you want to see your abs, then take pictures of your abs to track how much more definition you get. Take a front, side, and rear view picture. The clients whom I?ve transformed that failed to take before pictures have nothing but regret about not doing so. Your before pictures will become a trophy and they are an absolute must if you really are serious about getting results that count.
4.) Timeline: By when do you want to accomplish these goals? It is always best to have a set date to work towards. If you leave your goals open ended it is very easy to put things off or get off track because you have no set deadline. So, set a specific date to give your self a sense of urgency. Now, you do want to have a realistic timeline. You just can?t lose twenty pounds in five days. An appropriate goal is to lose 1? - 2 pound per week or about one dress/ pant size per month. For example, if you want to lose 20 pounds then it will take about 10-13 weeks on average. Get your calendar out and circle that date!
Step Three - Planning and Preparing for Roadblocks: What are the big obstacles that will prevent you from having the success you desire? What?s contributed most to past failures?
Now that we know what you want to accomplish, it?s time to plan and prepare for any obstacles that might get in your way of getting the job done based on your own personal schedule.
In general, the number one thing I hear is that people are too busy and tired and don?t have enough time to get their workouts in or make their meals. Well, I don?t care how busy you think you are, there is always hidden time throughout the day and week that can be freed up if your re-prioritize. Again, think back to why you wanted to do this in the first place and then examine what?s most important to you. Make your workouts and your meal times just like work appointments. If you want to keep your job you show up at that meeting and if you want to get your dream body then you better make that appointment.
Another big obstacle is alcohol. People like to drink and unfortunately alcohol is probably the most detrimental thing to burning fat. Again, what?s more important to you, looking good or having a drink? The choice is yours. Remember, once you achieve your goal, alcohol can be added back in with moderation. Low to zero alcohol consumption is needed if you want to look your best year round and that?s a fact.
Lastly, many people deal with boredom eating or emotional eating. Boredom eating means just that, eating to fill up dead time when you have nothing better to do. The best way to deal with this is to do something! Find an active hobby to keep your mind off of eating when boredom strikes and you can beat this trend. Emotional eating describes the use of food to cope with stress or to reward for accomplishment. Food is not unlike drugs or alcohol in this regard, it can be very addictive. There is no quick fix for emotional eating other than avoiding trigger situations like bars, parties, etc. and trigger foods like starches, sugars, permanent food.
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Natalie Nichols, NASM CPT, CES, is a nationally certified personal trainer and real world fat loss expert. For a FREE 1-week trial to her Dallas boot camp to experience the best personal training in Dallas please visit www.dallaselitebootcamps.com.
